Raise

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Deciding your own worth is a difficult thing. Especially when every other person also does that and judges you on how you rate yourself too.

Only death does not judge. You think you are a great quizzer? Cool, you still die. You think you are bad at communicating your inner insecurities? Cool, you still die. You think your skill development over this appraisal year has been intermediate? Cool, you still die. Isn’t that liberating?

Yet you mark and rank and judge yourself because you want to live in this world, and hierarchy and ranking are the only way to be eusocial. Even termites have a queen. And then you write such pieces and pay therapists to feel better and understand and live better. The problem is: this unrelenting heart and these relentless lungs.

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